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Modern thinking towards fetish play has softened thanks to hugely popular erotic romance novels and ever-evolving attitudes with regards to the pursuit of sexual pleasure. More people than ever are familiar with BDSM and the delights of bondage but these kinks and many others have provided arousal and release to people for hundreds, if not thousands, of years. The human brain has always been wired to delight in different fetishistic practices. The only different is that nowadays it’s more out in the open than ever thanks in large part to the internet’s ability to bring like-minded people together. There are many high quality fetish websites of course, but if you’re more of a mainstream person, we would recommend visiting http://wow-porn.tv and http://18onlygirls.tv. They have superb quality videos starring really beautiful models. The other project is http://www.nubilefilms.tv, exceptional website featuring free films on-line.

Bondage comes in many forms and it’s always held a special place in the bedroom. A pair of handcuffs offers the simplest form of restraint play as a partner can give up their control and see their hands bound to the headboard or posts while they are ravaged in the most erotic way. Throw in a blindfold for a touch of sensory deprivation and the arousal is heightened, perhaps leading to a mind-blowing orgasm that leads to deeper explorations of the world of BDSM.

Inherent in the exploration of bondage is domination and submission, though it’s not always necessary to incorporate those two states of being to fully enjoy restraint play in the bedroom. Often the joy of bondage comes from the complete release the submissive feels when they’re tied up. It’s thrilling to be without choice (outside of a safe word to stop all play immediately) and to wait for the dominant to fulfill his (or her) desires. His desire may be to pleasure the submissive relentlessly with his tongue and fingers or to take his own pleasure by using her body to further his desires. The only limit to what can be done is contained within the shared imagination of the couple. The more they open their minds to the possibilities of bondage the deeper their exploration can go.

Light bondage can be practiced by almost anyone. Using a pair of handcuffs or scarves to bind a lover’s hands to the bed or engage in simple restraint play is easy, but if a couple wants to engage in higher levels of play they should research their desires first to ensure that all safety precautions are taken. Rope bondage in particular should be done only after the couple has learned how to do it so they can make sure that no injuries will occur. Pain is often a part of BDSM play, but it’s also the brain’s way of notifying you that something is wrong and should be stopped, so too much pain is a bad thing.

That being said, exploring bondage and the tendrils of BDSM are wonderful ways for couples to enhance their intimacy. It’s best to start simple to see if restraint arouses you and once you’ve confirmed that feel free to dive as deep as you want. There are countless ways to put someone in bondage and numerous tools, devices, and outfits available to enhance the experience. This fetish has been active in the minds of kinky men and women for hundreds of years and an array of tools has been developed to heighten the experience. Couples should consider tying each other up if they haven’t yet settled into a dominant and submissive role.


A Japanese word that means “to tie”

Shibari has come to be known as an erotic, artistic form of bondage. It originates in the martial art of restraint that was used by Japanese police and samurai in the 1400’s. It was required that prisoners were treated well, so intricate forms of rope bondage were developed to restrain them and extract information while showing the proper level of respect. More honorable captives were tied in more intricate ways.

Throughout the 1800’s this evolved into a form of erotic bondage that has become known as Shibari. The submissive’s body is used in concert with the rope to create strikingly beautiful geometric shapes. The rigger (the person doing the tying) builds a work of art using his model and the ropes and when done by an expert it’s quite remarkable because he manages to tie her up without causing any pain. That’s part of the skill, of course, because he must go with the flow of her body and use the ropes to extend his model to places she might not be able to reach naturally while maintaining her comfort.

Shibari has garnered fans around the world for its ability to induce the bondage version of a runner’s high. Endorphins are released into the brain when this experience is triggered and it generates enormous pleasure for the submissive being tied. “Rope drunk” is a term commonly used to refer to those experiencing the hormone rush of being expertly tied. That’s also why Shibari models are willing participants and do not find pleasure in the struggle or a sense that they’re being forced into bondage, as is common with Western forms of BDSM play.

For newcomers, Shibari is best left to the realm of fantasy, for it takes years of practice to gain the proper level of expertise required to generate that “rope drunk” feeling in a submissive eager to be tied up. However, it is possible for inexperienced practitioners to experience something similar. Referred to as “sub space” in the world of BDSM, the same endorphin release is created when the couple connects beautifully in their fetish experience.


Spanking is a simple and easy-to-administer form of discipline that often helps a submissive descend into “sub space” and brings the dominant into what can be thought of as “top space.” An over the knee spanking is the most common kind, where the submissive lies across the knee of her dominant and receives punishment on her buttocks and sometimes her upper thighs. An open palm, paddle, wooden spoon, or hairbrush can be used to administer the spanking. It’s supposed to hurt, though the couple can decide on the level of pain used to bring about the desired mental state. The submissive should audibly keep count of how many blows their bottom has received and the nature of the relationship can be enhanced by having her thank her dominant for the spanking after each swat.

An exceptional level of trust between the submissive and dominant is required for this form of BDSM fetish play to succeed. Offering her buttocks in that way is an exceptionally vulnerable act and if she doesn’t have the utmost confidence that her dominant is going to treat her as he should she won’t be open to “sub space.” It should be noted that men and women can play the dominant and submissive roles with equal skill. The role you choose depends entirely on your preference and gender has nothing to do with it.

What’s referenced above is just a tiny taste of fetish play. In truth, almost anything can be an object of fetishistic desire, from a simple article of clothing to intricate sexual acts involving props and tools. Provided no one is being harmed in the practice of your fetish, it’s worth exploring to the fullest with a willing partner because the satisfaction derived from such delights is unparalleled.

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  • Erotic spanking is the act of spanking another person for the sexual arousal or gratification of either or both parties. Activities range from a spontaneous smack on bare buttocks during a sexual activity, to occasional sexual roleplay and may involve the use of a hand or the use of a variety of spanking implements, such as a spanking paddle or cane. Erotic spankings are commonly combined with other forms of sexual foreplay.

  • There's a very fine line between pleasure and pain. They are two sides of the same coin, one not existing without the other.

    E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey
  • Sex is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other.

    Marquis de Sade